MOTIVATOR: 7 REASONS TO STOP PROVING YOURSELF TO EVERYONE
"7 Reasons to Stop Proving Yourself to Everyone
Else"
You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE
enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need
other people to validate you; you are already
VALUABLE.
Sometimes we try to show the world we are
flawless in hopes that we will be liked and
accepted by everyone, but we can’t please
everyone and we shouldn’t try. The beauty of us
lies in our vulnerability, our complex emotions, and
our authentic imperfections. When we embrace
who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of
who we think others want us to be, we open
ourselves up to real relationships, real happiness,
and real success.
There is no need to put on a mask.There is no
need to pretend to be someone you’re not. You
have nothing to prove to anyone else, because…
1. The people worth impressing just want you to
be yourself.
In the long run, it’s better to be loathed for who
you are than loved for who you are not. In fact, the
only relationships that work well in the long run
are the ones that make you a better person without
changing you into someone other than yourself,
and without preventing you from outgrowing the
person you used to be.
Ignore the comparisons and expectations knocking
at your door. The only person you should try to be
better than is the person you were yesterday.
Prove yourself to yourself, not others. The RIGHT
people for you will love you for doing so, and they
will appreciate all the things about you that the
WRONG people are intimidated by. Bottom line:
Don’t change so people will like you; be patient,
keep being your amazing self, and pretty soon the
RIGHT people will love the REAL you.
2. No one else really knows what’s best for YOU.
Don’t lose yourself in your search for acceptance
by others. Walk your path confidently and don’t
expect anyone else to understand your journey,
especially if they have not been exactly where you
are going. You have to take the steps that are
right for you; no one else walks in your shoes.
Let others take you as you are, or not at all. Speak
your truth even if your voice shakes. By being true
to yourself, you put something breathtaking into
the world that was not there before. You are
stunning when your passion and strength shines
through as you follow your own path – when you
aren’t distracted by the opinions of others. You are
powerful when you let your mistakes educate you,
and your confidence builds from firsthand
experiences – when you know you can fall down,
pick yourself up, and move forward without asking
for anyone else’s permission.
3. YOU are the only person who can change YOUR
life.
In every situation you have ever been in, positive
or negative, the one common thread is you. It is
your responsibility, and yours alone, to recognize
that regardless of what has happened up to this
point in your life, you are capable of making
choices to change your situation, or to change the
way you think about it. Don’t let the opinions of
others interfere with this prevailing reality.
What you’re capable of achieving is not a function
of what other people think is possible for you.
What you’re capable of achieving depends entirely
on what you choose to do with your time and
energy. So stop worrying about what everyone else
thinks. Just keep living your truth. The only people
that will fault you for doing so are those who want
you to live a lie.
4. Society’s materialistic measurement of worth is
worthless.
When you find yourself trapped between what
moves you and what society tells you is right for
you, always travel the route that makes you feel
alive – unless you want everyone to be happy,
except you. No matter where life takes you, big
cities or small towns, you will inevitably come
across others who think they know what’s best for
you – people who think they’re better than you –
people who think happiness, success and beauty
mean the same things to everyone.
They’ll try to measure your worth based on what
you have, instead of who you are. But you know
better than that – material things don’t matter.
Don’t chase the money. Catch up to the ideas and
activities that make you come alive. Go for the
things of greater value – the things money can’t
buy. What matters is having strength of character,
an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. If
you’re lucky enough to have any of these things,
never sell them. Never sell yourself short.
5. Life isn’t a race; you have nothing to prove.
Everyone wants to get to the top of the mountain
first and shout, “Look at me! Look at me!” But the
truth is, all your happiness and growth occurs
while you’re climbing, not while you’re sitting at the
top. Enjoy the journey by paying attention to each
step. Don’t rush through your life and miss it.
Forget where everyone else is in relation to you.
This isn’t a race. You get there a little at a time,
not all at once.
Let go of the foolish need to prove yourself to
everyone else, and you’ll free yourself to
accomplish what matters most to you. Sometimes
you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to
always be and do what everyone else is being and
doing.
6. The path to all great things passes through
failure.
You are an ever-changing work in progress. You
don’t have to always be right, you just have to not
be too worried about being wrong. Screwing up is
part of the process. Looking like a fool sometimes
is the only way forward. If you try too hard to
impress everyone else with your “perfection,” you
will stunt your growth. You will spend all your time
looking a certain way, instead of living a certain
way.
It’s impossible to live without failing sometimes,
unless you live so cautiously that you aren’t really
living at all – you’re merely existing. If you’re too
afraid of failing in front of others, you can’t
possibly do what needs to be done to be
successful in your own eyes. You have to
remember that it doesn’t matter how many times
you fail or how messy your journey is, so long as
you do not stop taking small steps forward. In the
end, those who don’t care that failure is inevitable
are the ones that reach their dreams. YOU can be
one of them.
7. It’s impossible to please everyone anyway.
Some people will always tell you what you did
wrong, and then hesitate to compliment you for
what you did right. Don’t be one of them, and
don’t put up with them.
When you run into someone who discredits you,
disrespects you and treats you poorly for no
apparent reason at all, don’t consume yourself
with trying to change them or win their
approval.And be sure not to leave any space in
your heart to hate them. Simply walk away and let
karma deal with the things they say and do,
because any bit of time you spend on these people
will be wasted, and any bit of hate and
aggravation in your heart will only hurt you in the
end.
"Afterthoughts:
You don’t need a standing ovation or a bestseller
or a promotion or a million bucks. You are enough
right now. You have nothing to prove. Care less
about who you are to others and more about who
you are to yourself. You will have less heartaches
and disappointments the minute you stop seeking
from others the validation only YOU can give
yourself.
The floor is yours…
How has the desire to be accepted by others
interfered with your life? What has it stopped you
from doing or being? How have you coped? Leave
a comment below and share your insights with us.
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