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experienced around a girl, is if I and her run out
of things to talk about. Since you found this post
I assume you know what I’m talking about, and
maybe you are interested in learning how to avoid
awkward silence.
I’m thinking about the teeth pooling moments
where the awkward silence just takes over the
situation, you are just sitting their smiling while
desperately in your mind scrambling for
something just mildly interesting say, but you just
can think of anything, you mind is a total black
out, you can’t even remember your own name at
this point.
Finally you hear yourself saying something
completely uninteresting, like: “sooo.. do you
come here often”, she says “no its my first time!”
And then the conversation dries up once again,
the awkward silence start to eat you both up
from the inside until one of you can’t stand the
social pressure and thus make up some excuse to
leave.
It’s a horrible horrible situation to be in, I have
thus decided to make this cheat sheet of
interesting conversation topics to ensure, that you
will never run out of things to say again.
You are not alone; many guys have asked me
about “which conversation topics are the best to
talk about on a first date with girl” all us secretly
fear moment of awkwardness.
My personal list of
Conversation Topics:
Talk about Past Experiences:
1. Mayor events: Current events or event that has
made a huge impression on you: 9/11 is
something that everyone can relate to, but it’s
not going to evoke positive feelings in her, strive
to keep it light, trading concert experiences and
other mayor events can be a great source of
conversation.
2. Past dates: I would not recommend that you talk
about you last girlfriend or some girl you never
got over, but I my experience I can be fun to talk
about her and yours past worst date experience,
blind dates gone wrong, embarrassing moments
of awkward silence and good stuff like that.
Those are things most girls can relate to and a
good topic. You can also talk about the whole
dating scene, discuss funny pickup lines which
ones she has received and which one that
worked.
3. Past funny experiences: Tell her about the last
time that something out of the ordinary happen
to you.
4. Vacations: Find out how she is adventurous. Find
out if she like metropolitans or wilderness
traveling.
5. Future Plans: Ask her what she want to be when
she grows up (even if she an adult), ask her
about her dreams and ambitions. Ask her what
she likes about her current job, ask her how she
would like that job to evolve, would she like to be
a manager on day.
6. Hobbies: Ask her what kind of art she does. Talk
about yours and her passions, what are you
learning right now, what activities make you the
most excited.
Talk about Current Experience:
1. Talk about “the big blue elephant in the room” –
If you run out of things to say, and you feel there
an awkward silence, just call it out by saying:
“Isn’t it awkward when you feel like you have
nothing to say?”
Talk about Personal Preferences:
1. Tell her about your passions, what do you love
doing? Find out what she loves doing.
2. Tell her what you like in a woman and ask her
about what she is looking for in a man.
3. What she does for fun, her favorite café,
4. Personal taste
5. What does she like/not like about her self
Funny & Interesting Topics:
1. First time any of you broke the law?
2. Favorite childhood memories?
3. What surprising skills does she have?
4. Favorite complement?
5. How is she a rebel?
6. Time travel?
7. What event has changed her life destiny?
8. Oddest job ever?
9. Any embarrassing guilty pleasures?
10. Most hated chore on the chore list?
11. Greatest achievement?
12. Most memorable birthday?
13. Future honeymoon destination?
14. Recent life changes?
15. What would you do if you won the lottery?
16. What’s your theory on deja vu?
17. What level of school was your preferred one?
18. Worst date ever?
19. What gets you excited?
20. First life memory?
21. Favorite toy as a child?
22. What outfit makes you feel the most sexiest or
confident?
23. Do you have a fetish?
24. How do you spend your weekends
25. Favorite food?
26. Best gift you ever gave/or got from someone?
27. What is the one cleaning tip you swear by?
28. Do you believe in fate?
29. Tequila story?
30. How would you like to be remembered when you
are dead and gone?
31. How do people often misunderstand you?
32. Your ideas for a perfect night out
33. Ideal vacation length?
34. Ideal 5/10 year life plan
35. Last time you lost your temper?
36. Most embarrassing moment?
37. What stresses you the most?
38. Three main goals in life?
39. Five things you can’t live without.
40. Which movie/book are you ashamed to admit you
love?
41. What is the one book you think everyone should
be required to read?
42. What books have you read more than once?
But Be careful – Don’t ask too many questions!
Never turn a conversation into a interview, don’t
just ask one question after another, instead start
sharing what you find interesting , what you have
been wondering about lately. When you are
sharing you own perspective on things the
“principle of reciprocity” will inspire her to give her
point of view on whatever you just told her. Try
to offer your own perspective on the subject of a
question/topic before you ask her about that
question, she will often feel inspired to return her
opinion and yhus you don’t have to ask the
question. Finally, remember that natural
conversations include pauses, so don’t freak out
if you are not talking constantly, remember that
conversation should be a two way street, so It´s
not all up to you.
A quick Warning!
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